10 things I’ll miss when my kids are big

September 21, 2011

Do you know those moments when you start thinking about how fast life goes? We watch as our parents grow old, notice changes in our own bodies, and witness the miracle of our children growth from baby to adult. I look at my little cream puff of a little boy, with soft shoulders, smooth skin and his lovely baby face and think “Is my baby going to actually shave one day?!?!” I cannot even imagine it. I wish he could stay a 3 year old forever. But I do remember the words of my father when my sister and I wanted a puppy….”You know puppies don’t stay puppies forever, they grow up into big dogs”. So I must embrace the idea that one day, my puppy will grow up into a big dog.

So, for me these days, I have become really conscious about savoring the moments with my kids. Because I know these times are precious, almost holy, for them and for me. I decided to rethink the stuff that annoys me about being a mom or about my kids and came up with a list of 10 “currently” annoying things and what I will miss about them when they are gone…

1. To have a non-interrupted conversation between my husband and I is an impossible feat (unless we are alone…). One day I will miss my children needing my full attention and to listening to what they have to say a zillion times during the day.

2. My children yell “MAMMA” about 6 thousand times a day. One day I will miss being needed – even for little stuff.

3. My kids are expert whiners and complainers when they don’t get their way. One day I will wonder if I shouldn’t have given in a little more often.

4. To say that our bed is crowded at night would be an understatement. So crowded in fact, that some times Pappa is pushed completely out. One day I will miss those little bodies so warmly and tightly tucked into mine.

5. The pick ups and drop offs that never seem to end. One day my kids will drive themselves and won’t need the mamma taxi anymore. Will I ever get in the car again I ask?!

6. Our smallest one sometimes refuses to walk up the stairs on his own, plays the baby card. One day I won’t be able to physically carry him and feel the weight of his precious little body.

7. My daughter sometimes struggles to fall asleep by herself. One day I will look back to those precious moments just as she and I drift off to sleep in each others arms and wish we had done that more often.

8. Sometimes my little one is shy around people and won’t respond to friendly conversation. One day he’ll be talking to people everyday and I won’t be around to watch.

9. On the weekends my kids don’t sleep in, there are up at the crack of dawn. One day my mornings will be silent.

10. Sometimes dinner is all about negotiation – getting the kids to eat their dinner. One day my husband and I will enjoy quiet, candlelit dinners alone!

Ok! I had to end with one that stopped my dribbling tears and made me giggle! Nr. 10 I am sure looking forward to!!

Mommy mantra:
“I honor the moments in my divine role as mother and cherish the love and the connections that come forth within.”

What will YOU miss when your kids are big? Add them in the comment space below!

 

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40 Comments

  • Reply HAPPY TEARS when I read this October 26, 2011 at 6:53 am

    […] my pillow.  This is an article that I enjoy so much, I absolutely LOVE what Sigrid has to say, 10 things I’ll miss when my kids are big.  Happy tears roll down my cheeks cause this is all so true, and I enjoy every second with our […]

  • Reply Courtney October 25, 2011 at 5:54 pm

    Middle of the night breastfeeding! Sleep deprevation has never been so cuddly and cozy!

    • Reply Sigrid October 25, 2011 at 7:12 pm

      So TRUE Courtney!!

  • Reply Jane October 25, 2011 at 1:37 pm

    My oldest sister once told me that our mother had told her once that her favorite age for all of her children was infancy, where she could meet all of our needs. I feel exactly the same way. I loved it when I could take care of everything they needed, from nourishment to cleanliness and shelter and love and snuggles and laughter and playing. It scares and excites me to know that my children already have to be out in the world and need things from the world. (I was one of five children and I have 7-year old triplets and one 4-year old.)

    • Reply Sigrid October 25, 2011 at 4:56 pm

      Jane..I love how you say it “scares and excites me” – I think you hit on something profound here…that watching them grow means moving further away from us but the miracle of that growth is exciting! WOW..triplets and another little one! Yay you!!!

  • Reply Melinda October 25, 2011 at 10:49 am

    I will miss the sound of my baby gulping down my breastmilk in the still of the night, and then snuggling her warm head into my chest as she drifts back to sleep. And I will miss being the most important woman in my sons life.

    • Reply Sigrid October 25, 2011 at 4:57 pm

      I really miss breastfeeding too..what a joy that was. Watching my baby grown on nothing but food from ME! How awesome is that? I totally relate to your thoughts mama!

  • Reply sarah October 22, 2011 at 9:01 pm

    I think your post may have just changed my life for the better! I was bawling my eyes out reading it… has really made me think how precious these years are… when my children wake up in the morning I am going to give them the biggest cuddle ever! thank you so much…

    • Reply Sigrid October 23, 2011 at 4:16 am

      Yay Sarah!! I am so glad. Enjoy those little warm puppies this morning!!

  • Reply Nicole October 14, 2011 at 2:10 am

    I have a 14 year old son and am expecting a new baby in April… so glad that I am getting another opportunity to cherish all that love that a little one brings. On one note… my 14yo son still kisses me good night each night. Hanging on to it as long as I can!

    • Reply Sigrid October 14, 2011 at 5:25 am

      I love that Nicole! How did you manage to maintain that tenderness in your relationship if you don’t mind me asking? I hope so much my little boy still wants to kiss me goodnight when he is 14!

  • Reply Linda October 12, 2011 at 4:26 am

    Thanks, Sigrid. You know, every time I think of my grandsons, my heart swells up and I’m overwhelmed with love for them and for their parents. The tears don’t stop; but they aren’t tears of loss, they’re tears of joy. And yes, always our babies!!

  • Reply Linda October 12, 2011 at 3:44 am

    My son-in-law “liked” this page, so I followed the link, trusting his judgment on these things. Ladies, you all brought tears to my eyes … my “baby” is 31 yrs. old and I can’t begin to list those moments that I miss. But, life changes and the rewards are beyond our expectations when our precious babies bring home babies of their own. I have two grandsons – ages 3yrs & 4yrs – and when they hold my face in their little hands and tell me how much they love me, it’s heaven. Time does fly, and you should cherish every moment that you can and life is full of new moments that you can’t even imagine yet. Letting go is so very hard, but they never really “go”. With luck, you get a little break between the time when you think that you know that “my baby doesn’t need me any more” and the time when they say, “Mom, we can’t do this without you.” We’re lucky enough to be four generations strong right now and I think we all finally know how much we all depend on each other. It doesn’t end; it only gets better. We sometimes feel as though we have to give up this (moment in time) for that (them growing up), but we always get to hold those moments close to our hearts. Celebrate! Children are our gift from God – how lucky are we ??!!

    • Reply Sigrid October 12, 2011 at 4:06 am

      Linda!! What wise and super uplifting words!! I loved how you put it! Yes, let’s get excited about every step of the way, being a mom is an AMAZING ride and let’s just admit it, they will always be our babies..just maybe not in baby bodies!! Thank you Linda!

  • Reply Heather October 11, 2011 at 2:40 am

    As I sit here in tears thinking of how my first born just left for his first years of college, I miss each and every one of those things! The thing I miss the most from when they were you her is them sitting on my lap. Ugh… Enjoy them while you can because time flies so fast!!

  • Reply Juniper October 10, 2011 at 1:18 pm

    I am sitting here with tears running down my face. I am 40 (will be 41 this weekend) and I just ended a year long battle with cancer. I am still battling an autoimmune disease. Both of these have taken so much away from me. The things that anger me the most are the moments and memories my family has made that I have not been a part of. I have missed a year of my girls lives. They are 13 and 9 and very much independent. But I miss the tight squeezy hugs from my baby and the soft snuggle moments with my young lady! This is the first time I have opened up about this. With God’s Will I pray to make other memories and moments with my girls. Love your babies with all of the love God puts into your hearts!!!

    • Reply Sigrid October 10, 2011 at 4:51 pm

      Oh goodness Juniper!! I am crying too!! Do remember though all that this year has taught both you and your daughters. Those are precious moments as well. Moments that matter don’t always have to have a rosy tint around them. Sending you ALL my healing energy and LOVE in your journey to recovery.

  • Reply Harmony October 10, 2011 at 1:08 pm

    I do/will miss baby cuddles. I can only get my 3 yr old to cuddle with me when he first wakes up and my 1yr old just found out how cool dad is and is now wanting to cuddle with him more than me.

  • Reply Kathleen September 26, 2011 at 7:27 pm

    Right now when asked, my 5 year old says he wants to marry me when he grows up. I cannot imagone that one day there will be another lady in his life!

    • Reply Sigrid September 27, 2011 at 5:19 am

      I hear you Kathleen!!

  • Reply Deanna Kearns September 26, 2011 at 12:28 am

    Took me awhile to be able read this. I had an incident where my son was hurt on the baseball field and I had to stand back and watch. I was so proud that he was able to deal with it on his own (and coaches, but yet so sad and terrified at the same time. I am so excited about where my life is right now, so happy and full. Also looking forward with positivity and fear. :)

  • Reply Lauralee September 25, 2011 at 9:23 pm

    I will miss picking little socks off the floor when they fall out of laundry baskets.

    I think about this stuff too. Nice list!

  • Reply Zaib September 24, 2011 at 9:23 am

    Wow this is really nice…..i loved reeading each n every word n yes these r really the precious moments we gonna miss abt our lil ones :(

  • Reply Sylvia September 23, 2011 at 1:09 pm

    Det var kloke ord som jeg skal ta med meg videre. Har akkurat lest innlegget ditt om yelling at your kids, som jeg kjente meg veldig godt igjen i.
    Jeg er Sylvia, forresten, du har sikkert hørt om meg fra Ellie.
    Hadde vært hyggelig å møte deg og søsteren din en gang, har hørt så mye om dere.
    Hilsen Sylvia

    • Reply Sigrid September 23, 2011 at 2:36 pm

      I am so glad you liked it Sylvia!

  • Reply Ellie Scott September 23, 2011 at 6:21 am

    Oh Sig, you are brilliant. I love your writing style, so wise and beautiful. Thanks for bringing some poignance to my morning. I don’t even have kids and still it made me cry. I think you’re doing really great work here.

    • Reply Sigrid September 23, 2011 at 7:02 am

      Ellie! You are too sweet! Thank you so much….

  • Reply Shannon September 22, 2011 at 10:35 pm

    As a mother of a 16 year old son….this made me cry! I miss so much….the cuddles, the kisses, the sweet smooth skin….now it’s all man hair and smelly stuff. Now I wait for grandchildren! LOL

    • Reply Sigrid September 23, 2011 at 4:52 am

      OMG Shannon, well put! They go from smelling like angles to well, smelling!

  • Reply Tamsyn September 22, 2011 at 4:00 am

    awww this brought tears to my eyes!! ill just miss having my babies around, the house will feel so empty…i’ll have to become a workaholic, can’t wait to be a Grandma though and do it all again minus the 3am feeds! hehe. My 4.5year old tells me she doesnt want to grow up and leave home, that she wants to live with Mummy, Daddy and her baby sister forever…i know once shes older though she will look forward to the day shes 18 and can leave home…. :( :(

    • Reply Sigrid September 22, 2011 at 10:09 am

      I came up with one more thing I will miss. My little one loves music..pop music, Selena Gomez to be specific and sings her songs at the top of his lungs constantly. One day I will miss hearing his sweet baby voice…one day he’ll talk like a man.

  • Reply Kim September 22, 2011 at 2:52 am

    SAHM of 3- 4.5 boy, 3 boy, 13mo. girl.
    The list of things I will miss is endless… just a few “I love you momma” “Mommy you are pretty”, cuddle times during naps, story time, toothless grins, baby cackling, “mommy watch this watch this!” with such enthusiasm, innocence, being able to heal the most painful ouchy with my kisses… the most genuine hugs and kisses EVER! But I hope that I will get to live through all the wonderful and proud moments to watch them grow and become wonderful adults and loving parents- and get to relive some of the preciousness with my grandkids :-)

    • Reply Sigrid September 22, 2011 at 3:46 am

      Oh my goodness you guys…the post may have made you all cry (sorry about that!!! :-)) but your comments made me cry. Love them all! Kim, my little boy says to me “Mamma, you’re my best friend!”…he may stop saying it, but I hope in my heart he never stops feeling it. I send the biggest MAMMA HUGS to you all today!

  • Reply Shannon Askew September 22, 2011 at 12:45 am

    I can’t stop crying for long enough to think x x x x

  • Reply maria September 21, 2011 at 7:42 pm

    I think you got them all. I do think often about the time when he won’t need me anymore…already regretting time flying so fast. I will miss that big, innocent, open smile on his face, the pure love in his eyes and the hearty hug he gives me out of the blue. And now I want to cry. :)

  • Reply Lata September 21, 2011 at 7:21 pm

    I really needed to read this today :) I will sure miss her little 2yr old hands cradling my face whilst looking at me and falling alseep with a smile on her face! So precious will these memories be oneday :)

  • Reply Emily Casey (@EmilyCaseysMuse) September 21, 2011 at 5:07 pm

    It’s funny, but I think about these things too. Sometimes (and I know this sounds crazy) I think that someday I might actually miss changing diapers. It’s nice to feel needed, to mother and worry about my kids.

    • Reply Sigrid September 21, 2011 at 5:43 pm

      Oh! I knew I forgot one…DIAPERS for sure. I mean, minus the gunk…being close, touching, caring for those beautiful little bodies. A diaper change is a chance to love. I am gonna be the best diaper-changin’-granny!! I think you will be too Emily!!

  • Reply Sigrid September 21, 2011 at 4:08 pm

    Funny how these little muffins grow us us, huh Shawna!?

  • Reply Shawna September 21, 2011 at 8:25 am

    Great post!! Being a stay at home mama with my 16 month old the first thing I’ll miss is the day when I’m no longer her favorite playmate and her most favorite person in the whole world.

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