Hello! With all the new members on The Joyful Mother Facebook page these days, I know there are a lot of new mommies looking for support and inspiration. So I thought I would write down a few things that I know now, but didn’t know then. No matter what you do as a mom, if you love your children and actively show it, making mistakes only makes you a better mamma. So let go of it having to look and be perfect. You are already PERFECT just the way you are.
If some of our seasoned mommies see something that is missing from this list..a kernel of wisdom you wish to impart on the newbies, just add your comments in the space below. Love to all ♥!
- That my baby’s cries do not necessarily need to send me into utter anxiety. She is just trying to tell me what she needs. Calm down and listen to what she is trying to tell me.
- I don’t need to do it all. Ask for help, include my husband and do it together.
- Routine is great, but breaking it isn’t the end of the world.
- Turn off the internet and rely on my intuition to figure out how to be a mommy. Ask yourself how, listen to the answers and heed them. You will only get better as a mother if you do this.
- Don’t take comments from my mother or mother in law so seriously. Remember that this new child sparks new emotions in them that they may not know how to process.
- Get a dog. The connection between great animals and children is priceless
- Even if I thought I was enjoying every moment, enjoy more. Time flies when you are having fun.
- Stop thinking about doing it right or wrong and feel love in every moment – it is that love that will make me a wonderful mother, not what I do or don’t do.
- It is ok to make mistakes as a mom, forgive myself and remember to learn from them – do something different next time.
- Collaborate with my husband from day one to consistently and consciously improve as a parent – throughout the child’s life.
- Write down more of the wonderful, funny stuff my kids do.
- My baby feels my energy and is supremely connected to me. Wake up and realize this! If I want my baby to be calm and harmonious, I must FIRST be that.
- Create rituals around everything early.
- Make choices in how I parent that make me feel proud.
- Realize that I am more powerful, resourceful and creative than I can even begin to imagine. TRUST myself more.
- Do not, ever compare myself with other mothers and feel bad about myself. Look to other moms as a source of inspiration and learning.