I believe life is about expansion, about growth and committing to consistently becoming more of who we really are, on our own terms. Not about becoming more of who we think we ought to be or who we think people or society expects us to be, but who we really are.
If you are reading this and follow my work, you are most likely cut from the same cloth. We all want to be better, to live the best versions of ourselves. I think this is a naturally human urge and goes for those of us who are aware of our path towards self-development or not. But what I think is really exciting is when wake up to this process! When we become aware, when we start really noticing how we are stepping more and more into the person we truly desire to be through overcoming challenges, fine-tuning our desires and truly committing to owning our own greatness.
I have been on my own journey with my eyes wide open ever since I was 19 years old and realized while sitting on a plane that I had this thing inside me called intuition and that this “voice” was the voice of truth within me – the real me! Becoming the best version of me has been and always will be the greatest joy I have in my life. Committing to the cycle of getting clear about what I want more of, consistently aligning my thoughts and behaviors to make them show up in my life and doing this over and over again, through all the stages of my life, allows me consciously create the life of my dreams.
And the life of my dreams I am very much living.
But it was earlier this summer while visiting my family and friends here in Norway that this very personal journey of mine was mirrored back to me. For the first month I was alone in Norway with the kids and to be honest, I cannot remember a time I have been more harmonious and enjoyed my kids more. My mother noticed and said “Man, Sig, you sure have changed…” I asked her what she meant and she said that I used to be really irritable, short-tempered and stressed. She said she so easily notices how much I enjoy my kids and being a mother. It sort of took me by surprise. I mean, even though I am committed to my own growth and am conscious of my journey, I hadn’t noticed my evolution! I got a similar comment from my sister-in-law (who is also one of my best friends). She started reminiscing about a vacation we took together about 6 years ago. Sophie, my 9 year old was only 3. She said she remembers that I easily lost my temper with both Sophie and my husband and remembers me saying specifically to my daughter one afternoon (mid-meltdown)“I don’t care what you do! You can go play in traffic for all I care!!!”
GOD…what the what!!! Was I really that much of a bitchy mother, that much of a loose cannon? I guess I was. I even found a book of mine the other day from about the same time where I had found a piece of paper stuck inside where I had written down all the things I wanted to change in my life. One of them said “I want to stop losing my temper with my child and my husband.” Wow. I don’t remember that me. If anything it is a vague memory. Honestly I cannot remember the last time I lost my temper from a place of over-reaction and stress. That is not the kind of mother I am any more. Thank God…..Not that I don’t get mad, but now anger is used to set limits with my kids.
I truly love being a mother. I love spending time with my kids. I have patience and presence and adore my life. But it took me 6 years to get here. I saw early on what kind of mother I wanted to be. I struggled through living as the opposite of that, but commitment, clarity and love were the themes of my life, my dedications and change happened. It happened slowly, but it happened and I could not be more proud of myself.
So this is the deal, you can do this too. But it takes a plan. Here are my three steps to conscious motherhood:
1. Get clear about what kind of person, mother, career person you want to be. You cannot strive for a better you without knowing what that you looks like, what it feels like and how it looks.
2. Commit to that vision of a better you. If it is important to you, you will prioritize it. Commitment to a better you isn’t about overthinking your every move or punishing yourself for not being perfect. It is about a gently knowing that you can do better and committing to learning and doing better every day in every way.
3. Notice your progress! Living far away from my loved ones and seeing them once a year gave me a unique perspective on my journey, but you can still document your progress by consistently writing down your thoughts, you’re a-ha’s, your challenges and your successes.
Now it’s your turn!!
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