I posted this amazing poem yesterday by the amazing SARK and what a response it got! Over 1000 people liked it or shared it and many commented on how it touched them. I read it out loud to my husband and got choked up myself. Amazing words. One of the comments came from a woman who said “lovely words, but easier said than done….”
I understand that for some of us, stepping out of our comfort zone is hard, but is it really hard to embrace these ideas or is that something we simply choose to believe, something some of us tell ourselves (intend no disrespect to the woman who made the comment – it inspired this post so thank you!!)? We all have our own unique styles of parenting for sure, also our own unique personalities. We have all met the silly mom or the goofy dad – those parents quick with a joke or a game. My father loved to play fight with my sister and I – we had so many giggles and loved every minute of it. It was during this fun moments I saw who my father really was – joy incarnate, effortlessly happy and so in love with his twin girls. We always tried to drag my mother into the play, but she would always worm away, sniffling a giggle and quick to compose herself. It just wasn’t her thing. And that was ok. But those moments of play with my dad solidified an almost spiritual bond with my father, that I never had with my mom. My sister and I were allowed to see ALL of him, not just the father, or the disciplinarian or the guide or the professional working man. We saw HIM – his essence somehow.
So, ok, maybe finding an elephant to kiss is a bit of a challenge. But there are so many easy things on this list you can do TODAY. But the very FIRST thing that I want you to do is to believe that you can. Believe that you can let go of your own “adultness”, connect to your inner child, by-pass some of your limitations (whether it is a comfort zone thing or a time limitation) and step into really loving your child today.Don’t over think it, just BE it, DO it. It is much simpler than you think.
Easy stuff on SARK’s list…
- Find easy YES’s and say it as often as you can
- Let them bang on pots and pans (with door closed maybe)
- Did the crabby baby in water thing yesterday – works like a charm
- Exuberant reading! Giggles galore…
- See the positive in everything that happens. It is right there…look for it, expect it
- Practice empathy and truly see them for the small humans they are
- Remember your childhood and how important childhood really is
- I just popped around the corner in the house this morning with a BOO and scared the PJ’s off my girl…we laughed all the way to breakfast!
- Stop the yelling – there are better ways to maintain control. Read 3 Tips to Help You Stop Screaming at Your Kids
- Get down on your knees, look them in the eyes and from the depths of your heart, say I Love You. And don’t expect an answer back.
Which one will you commit to doing today?