Practical ways to claiming your monkey mind – Step 2

June 24, 2010

A few months back, December of last year, I wrote the first of 2 blogs, providing you with steps on claiming your monkey mind or quieting your mental chatter. If you haven’t read that yet, do so now by clicking here and then come back to read step 2 of the process!

In the first step, I spoke about beginning to notice your habitual negative thoughts. Without recognizing the things that hold us back, we can do nothing to change them.

We tend to only have a handful of themes or topics for our negative thoughts that just seem to change form. We could feel really insecure about our bodies for example and could have many different thoughts throughout the day just under this particular issue. What are the general topics inside your head that seem to repeat themselves? Write them down now.

So now we have an idea of what we are thinking about. Now it is time to start doing something to shut them up! Here are some tips to help you do just this. Read through them, try some out and then commit to using just one technique for a week and see the impact. Come back and choose another until you find one that works for you.

  1. Grounding yourself energeticallyWhen I am able to reconnect to my physicalness, to start noticing my body or what is around me in the moment. This immediately quiets my mind. The easiest technique I have found is to imagine roots of a tree (mine are vast and intricate!) extending from the bottom of my spinal cord. These roots extend down into the earth and attach themselves to the core of the earth. Just doing this and feeling the energy shift is often enough to not only quiet my mind, but get present in the moment.
  2. Brain dump This technique is helpful in two ways. By writing down the thoughts in your head, you both release yourself from the burden of carrying them around but often you also find solutions to your current challenges. Start with writing down a question on the top of the page (word document or a piece of paper). The other day my brain dump title was So how can I make an impact to myself and others?
  3. Stop fighting my thoughts A lot of times, we lie in bed and just feel completely trapped, imprisoned by the thoughts in our head. A friend of mine described it in this way:
    i go, go, go, do, do, do…
    i sleep with the tv on so i don’t lay in bed all night long thinking of all the things i need to accomplish…
    i’m not talking big things either…
    buy diapers, this work thing, that bill thing…
    eventually i crash, become totally unproductive, recharge and the cycle begins again…
    go, go, go, do, do, do….
    be still, inhale, exhale, go somewhere peaceful…
    2 seconds pass, peaceful! i need to be at the grocery store, the daycare, work, cleaning my home…
    ok, focus, inhale, exhale,
    but make it quick cause you still need to be at the grocery store, the daycare, work, cleaning my home… 
    So, find a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed. Ground yourself using the technique above and then welcome in these negative feelings. Let them be a part of you too! They are just thoughts, just emotions, they won’t kill you or harm you in any way. Allow yourself to really feel this emotion (one at a time). Yield to it, embrace it, let it be with you. And when you feel it beginning to lessen, release it, just let it go. Do this until they are gone. By doing this, the power these thoughts have over you is released and your mind is soothed.

    What do you think the thoughts are that she is thinking underneath all the action, the doing, the movement? Only she knows for sure, but getting in touch with those feelings underneath our productivity addiction is hugely important. So for my friend, once she recognized these core thoughts/beliefs, it would be time to accept them. The thing is is that we have all these thoughts each day that don’t feel good…and we fight them, we don’t want to feel bad, we want to feel good, so we shove them down somewhere, get busy with stuff and hope they go away. The bad new is not only do they NOT go away, the fester and get bigger.

  4. Recognize the impact your thoughts have on what shows up in your life If you don’t know this already, we live in an energetically based world. Everything and everyone is vibrating – protons, neurons and electrons moving at lightning speed. But what most people may not know is that our thoughts have an energetic vibration as well. Modern neuroscience and quantum physics illustrate this link but we all have personal experience, if noticed, that support this idea. How many times, have you woken up on the wrong side of the bed and your day just gets worse and worse? Same for the opposite state of mind, you wake up positive and energized and you have one positive encounter after another throughout the day. If you stop and take notice of how the energy of your thoughts impact your world, you would perhaps take choosing your thoughts and being in charge of your mind a bit more seriously.Try it with a child. Notice how your energy impacts them. Not insomuch as what you say, but just your general mood. When my child is having a meltdown, I ground myself and stay calm and content, not getting sucked into his drama. The tantrum is gone in record time. He feeds off the energy coming from my thoughts and emotions. When I don’t manage to stay in a good place and I do join him in melt down land, the tantrum seems to never end, gets worse and negatively impacts the rest of the day. Again, he feeds off my energy – my thoughts.Start noticing how your thoughts impact your reality. You do have control of your mind, know this. It is simply about cultivating skills and habits that make is simpler to create the life you desire.

Many blessings!

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